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Married Life I was seventeen years old in January, and on July 18, 1924 Ernest
and I were married. We stayed with Mrs. Hall for a while until
we could get some furniture. It wasn't long until one of Ernest's
friends separated, so we bought their furniture and moved to the
mill village. Our house was on Middle Street and it had three
rooms with a hall in between them.
I would sit up until three in the morning making sheets, pillowcases
and scarves. I loved it there and had Odell and Ira Lee with me.
We had been living there six months, and my dad came in. I didn't
feel I could encourage him to stay with me after he had left us
twice so he left one day while I was at work.
He took Odell and Ira Lee with him. He went to my granddad's house
and told granddad he was going up to Tennessee to live with his
father. I wrote my grandmother and asked her if he was there with
the two kids. She wrote back and said he came, stayed two weeks,
and left Odell but took Ira Lee with him to Nashville. Ernest
borrowed a car and we drove to Tennessee to get them both.
When we got home, Odell went back to work in the mill and Ernest
got Ira Lee a job making bands. Ira Lee was fifteen years old
then. After a few months, I got a letter, which I thought was
from Grandfather. He asked me to bring the kids, for my dad was
dying.
So Ernest, borrowed a car from his brother, and we all went to
grandfather's. My father had actually written the letter and he
wasn't even sick. He had a job as an apartment manager and wanted
Odell and Ira Lee with him. So we left them, but he lost his job
in a few days. He took Odell to get her a job in the mill and
left her with my granddad. Then, he took Ira Lee with him to St.
Louis.
A little later on Liz and Otis moved to South Carolina, so Ernest
and I sold out to follow them. We lived with them in Rock Hill,
South Carolina, and worked in a cotton mill. I ran eight sides
and Ernest was an oiler. He made $13.50 a week and I made $16.79
a week.
We bought a bed and dresser to go in our room. Later, Lotus and
Floyd Rutherford, my aunt and her husband came to Rock Hill, so
we supported Liz, George, Mary, and Otis. Otis would not work.
We lived there three months and in March we left for Atlanta.
The year we got back to Atlanta it snowed on the 15th of May. I
was carrying Snooks at the time. We got some furniture and went
to housekeeping in Lowery town where Snooks was born on September
27, 1925. I didn't know too much about babies, but after Snooks
was two months old I went to work.
This was in 1925. I took him to the nursery and it only cost 50
cents a week to keep him there. We lived in that house for about
a year and a half and then moved up the road near the bridge in
a house with Joe Donaldson. This was the old Casey house. Ernest
went to work with Joe working on cars there.
We had to carry water to the house from a big spring. At about
that time I quit the mill and didn't work anymore until Charlie
was born in 1928. We moved from that house over to Carey Park
in a house with Uncle Bud McGuire. We stayed there for one winter
and moved to Mason Turner. That spring I dug up a large area and
raised a nice garden.
Right before Charlie was born, I got hurt in an automobile accident,
but I didn't go to a doctor because we really had no money. Later
after Charlie was born, my back was starting to draw over badly.
The first day I got out of bed I couldn't straighten up.
Ernest eventually quit working for Joe Donaldson and went back
to the mill. Unfortunately, work was so short at the mill that
he only worked three days a week; the rest of the time he fixed
flat tires.
He didn't start working full time in the mill until that fall.
After he started working full time, he bought a Model T Ford,
so I went back to work to help him pay for it. I knew that if
I didn't go back to work, he would lose it because he couldn't
save any money.
Ernest was the type of person who would pay you only if you happen
to catch him with money in his pocket. I had to get a back brace
for my back because it started hurting so bad. I would pad the
brace but it still cut big gashes under my arm. I used soft diapers
for padding.
Also, my legs and hips hurt badly. I couldn't put one foot lower
than the other without screaming in pain. And just a little later
I became pregnant with D. L. I was trying to keep working to get
Ernest out of debt because debt worried me.
But the more bills I paid, the more debt Ernest would run up. He
bought a Singer sewing machine and a bedroom suite. The bedroom
suite alone cost $49.50, so he just went to a loan company and
borrowed the money to pay off the bedroom suite. Then we had to
pay $9.00 per month to the loan company.
In addition he was supposed to pay $1.00 per week on the sewing
machine. We were unable to do that so the sewing machine was reposed.
Naturally, they couldn't catch Ernest so I had to face them.
I quit work until D. L. was three months old. One day Ernest was
working on a car and the jack failed and the car came down on
his arm and broke it. He was out of work for nine weeks, so I
had to go to work so we could make it.
His sister Marie kept the kids while I worked to pay for groceries,
house rent and insurance. After his arm healed, he didn't seem
to want to work anymore. He went fishing all day long. My legs
for so bad that I had to quit.
Meanwhile, things were going bad at the mill and it shut down a
little later. We decided to move to another house with cheaper
rent and stayed there through the winter. Ernest got a job at
Bushman's selling meat and sausages for $7.00 a week.
He was gone from early in the morning until late at night. Then,
he quit bushman and went to work for Roy Dodgins as a mechanic.
Mr. Dodgins bought Snooks overalls to go to school and I washed
them every evening so that he would be able to stay clean.
He wore one pair of overalls until school was out, but he went
clean to school every day. Later we moved back to Mason turner
in the same house we lived in before, Ernest worked for Roy for
a while but he never made much money at that job.
Also, he ran up a grocery bill at the store that I didn't know
about. I had to get out and pick blackberries to help pay for
that bill. When the mill started up again, Ernest went back to
work to pay off the grocery bill. We worked ten hours a day and
when I came home, I did my washing and ironing until late at night.
I tried to make enough money to get Joan's (her name was spelled
Joan, however we called her Joanne) baby clothes and the kid's
school clothes before I quit work. Joan was born on the 7th of
August 1934, and she as a beautiful baby. Ernest was on cloud
nine and let her sleep in the bed with him the first night, as
it turned out she slept with him until she was five years old.
As far as he was concerned, she was the only baby we had.
We moved to another four-room house when Joan was three months
old. Marie, Ernest's sister was out of a job so she came to live
with us and keep the children for me to work. I then bought a
sewing machine and paid for it myself.
During that period of time, I started going to the "rubbing"
doctors to see if they could help my back, so most of my money
went to the doctor. When Joan was two years old, Mr. Hall died;
he had been paralyzed for some time. We moved to Mrs. Hall's basement
so she wouldn't have to live alone. I continued working until
1938.
Charlie was in school and he got a whipping everyday by the teacher.
One day his girlfriend Ann came to see me and told me that Charles
was fighting in school. She said that she was so ashamed of him
because Charlie had hit the teacher. He told the teacher that
if she hit him hard, he would hit her hard.
I talked to him, gave him a whipping, and he did fine, but Ann
wouldn't have him for her boyfriend. Charlie's nickname was "roughneck".
If anyone bothered Snooks, Charlie would get into a fight over
it because he really looked after Snooks.
When Joan was five years old she got Scarlet Fever and liked to
have died. Ernest went to the hospital, rain or shine. He came
down sick and never saw another well day until he died.
We stayed with Mrs. Hall until 1939 when Betty was born. The mill
shut down in 1937 and there was no money anywhere. Ernest worked
for a short period with homer Suddeth and brought home vegetables.
But we had no bread, and I had no baby clothes for Betty. Charles
and Snooks worked at the bowling alley setting up pins and made
a dollar a night.
We used that money to buy milk and bread. I crocheted dresses,
scarves and doilies, and one of the teachers bought them. The
teacher sent them to London, Germany, Italy and New York to her
friends.
Ernest started working with the P.W.A., things were bad everywhere;
there was no money. When you worked you got a piece of paper to
buy groceries with. There was no sugar, snuff, peaches, coffee
or anything but basic foods.
Everyone was starving. One day his pay for working with the P.W.A.
was a sack of fruit, but he gave it away cause he was too lazy
to bring it home. Things were really bad during those days. One
night the boys didn't get to work and we had no breakfast the
next morning.
One day Ernest came in and said that he had a job at Brooks Auto
Parts for two dollars a day. I was still in the bed with Betty,
but I told him to go ahead and take the job. As soon as Betty
was a month old we moved to Carey Park. We lived there until Betty
was two years old. In early 1940, we moved to Cobb County to a
house owned by Mr. Brooks on Maynard Road. Mr. Brooks got us a
cow and the boys and I cleaned off some land for a large garden
and corn patch.
I was so large I couldn't walk much except with a stick, but I
still kept things going around the house. The boys helped clean
the house, got water up at night, helped with the ironing, cut
wood and did everything they could. They were good children, but
it was hard on them. In the meantime, Ernest worked for Brooks
Auto Parts, but he began drinking badly.
On May 29, 1940, Duck was born. I had to put him on the bottle,
but all the kids loved him and helped look after him. Snooks rocked
him until eleven o'clock every night because he had the three-month
colic. He started crying at four PM in the evening and cried until
eleven o'clock at night.
Ernest's drinking got so bad that our friends started talking to
him about it. Finally, he got ashamed about it, quit Brooks Auto
Parts and went back to the mill. We moved to a house on Watkins
Road and stayed there for a while, and moved again to our present
house on Watkins road. We stayed here until Dee Mitchell had to
go into the service, and Marie talked Ernest into moving in with
her so she wouldn't be by herself.
We lived with her one winter, but her drinking caused Ernest to
go back to drinking. By then, I was pregnant with Mary, so I begged
him to find another house. When he refused, I left him, took Betty
and Duck, and went to Nix McGuire's house. Ernest came by every
day to see us and Snooks came by every night. Finally, Snooks
quit school, got a job and rented us a house on Riverview road.
Finally, Ernest slowed down on the drinking for a while, came
to live with us and we raised a nice garden there.
Then, Ernest rented a big house on Oakdale Rd and we moved up there.
We lived there until Mary was born. Even though Snooks was working
at Westinghouse, he did most of the cooking because I finally
got to where I couldn't walk with out help. I crocheted curtains
for the whole house while I was waiting for Mary to be born.
On October 29, 1942 Mary Kay was born (her real name is Kay Frances)
They named her before I was able to tell them that her name was
supposed to be Mary Lucille (named for Mary Cavin) When Mary was
two months old, we moved to Watkins road again. By then, World
War II was going strong, and Snooks went into the service. With
Snooks gone, Charlie quit school and went to work.
We stayed in that house until 1945. During those years, Ernest
made his first crop. He, D.L. and Charles raised a garden. Then
Charles left for the service. About that time, we moved again
to our present house on Watkins Road.
Charles joined the Marines when he was seventeen years old. He
really wanted to go in the Marines. When Snooks was gone, I went
with him in my dreams. I also knew when he got hurt and when he
was coming home. I felt him getting nearer and nearer until I
could reach out and touch him.
Ernest would curse at me because he wouldn't believe what I was
telling him, but Snooks came in on the very day that I said he
would. Ernest called me a witch and couldn't believe Snooks was
really there, so he touched him to see if he was real.
I also followed Charles and did my share of crying. When they were
gone I got really sick and when Snooks got out of the service.
He came and looked after the kids and me. He stayed with me until
I got well. He washed, ironed and cooked and kept a clean house
for the children. No one knows how much he helped me during those
days.
While I was sick, he kept my bed sheets clean, and that alone was
a job in the shape I was in. I was in bed from the last of December
until the 15th of May, 1946.After I got out of the bed it took
a long time for me to get back in shape, but my kids helped me
do it.
I guess that is why I love them so, they were always there when
the chips were down and did their part to help. I know I enjoyed
my children more than any mother because we took the good with
the bad together.
We shared things, with each other. For example, one day D. L. lifted
the front of a car and held it until his friends put on two new
front tires. He hurt his back doing this, but he didn't say anything.
Later after he had already married his legs hurt him so bad he
couldn't walk or go to work.
I took him to the doctor and paid his bills until he was able to
work and made him stay here until his first child was seven months
old. I did the washing and Joan did all the ironing. D.L.'s wife,
Rose, would help with the housework. Every one of my kids pitched
in.
Another example is when D.L.'s little boy died. Charlie paid all
the bills for his burial out of his pocket. Another example was
when Darcie had Snooks locked up. Charlie cried like he was whipped
and paid the fines and court cost by himself. He cried all the
way home from the courthouse cause it hurt him when one of his
family was hurt. Another example was when we thought Mary was
going blind.
My kids stood by me. Charles took her to the Lighthouse of the
Blind and they said she would be blind by the time she was eighteen
years old. Charlie cried as much as I did but he didn't give up.
He took her to other specialist, but they all said the same thing.
We were at our wit's end, but kept praying and kept faith. One
day we started home from the doctor, but stopped in at Sim's Dime
Store on Marietta Street. We were both still crying, so Mrs. Ida
Sims tried to help us. Ida Sims ran this store and was a very
good friend. She had helped me out many times and we all loved
her.
Charles told her about Mary and she wrote an address and phone
number down. She told us to go see a doctor that she knew about.
Also she told us about her brother who was born blind. She had
taken him everywhere and had spent thousands of dollars trying
to find someone who could help her brother gain his sight. Finally
she found a doctor in Atlanta who could perform the required operation.
She had it done and her brother could now see. The doctor's name
was Louis Burgess. The next morning Charlie and I took Mary to
the doctor. He prescribed her glasses and treatment, and we spent
the next several years working with her to help her keep her eyesight.
No one knows how much they have to be thankful for until they
have one of their own in trouble.
We went through our hard times in Georgia, and there's one thing
that hard times makes you realize. No matter how poor or rich,
everyone is the same if their child is in trouble. When a family
is undergoing a crisis, the only thing that really counts is the
help of your loved ones. We never know what is ahead for our children,
all we can do is guide them and raise them the best we know how.
I have 30 grandchildren, 5 great grandchildren, one great grandson
and I love each and every one of them the same. I hope that they
will never have to endure the hard times that we went through
in our lives. I still can remember Joan's scarlet fever. It was
during Hoover times and she almost died. They had to put electricity
to her bed to bring out the rash.
We couldn't see her for three weeks. When Betty came down with
scarlet fever we had to seal her off from the rest of the family.
No one could go into her room but me. I had to give her two baths
a day and rub her with medicine; she was paralyzed from the hips
down. After I fed her I had to put her dishes in Lysol water.
I changed her bed and clothes everyday, washed them in Lysol water
for thirty minutes and boiled them on the stove for thirty minutes.
She stayed in her room for twenty-one days before she could come
out and had to learn how to walk again. Only with the help of
God was I able to make it through.
Probably the worst of my hard times occurred when Duck got shot
in the arm with a shotgun. We were all scared to death. I held
up real well until Duck got home from the hospital; then I almost
had a nervous breakdown. He never knew it, but I made Ernest take
me for a ride in the car down in the woods so I could cry my heart
out.
In fact, Ernest took me several times for that ride before I could
hold my tears. Later, when Duck had the operation on his jaw.
I had to hold on until I could get time to go outside to do my
crying. I cried all night. He couldn't eat for six weeks and we
all suffered along with him.
Even thought the times of my life were hard, there were moments
that I enjoyed and will never forget. I remember the das when
I would take all the kids to help me clear land and carry rocks
off the field.
Some days we worked like dogs but still enjoyed it. We raised most
everything that we ate. I always wanted my kids to learn how to
farm for a living. All the boys learned to plow and I would can
our vegetables. We were usually so tired at night that our baths
felt especially good. Of course, all we had was just a big tub
for a bath. We all wore hand me down clothes, but I did the sewing
to make them fit the kids.
For my clothes, I bought feed sacks and made dresses with them.
We always kept a clean house, clean bedclothes and clean clothes
to wear. In the end, I guess all you really have are your memories.
Our family always enjoyed being together; at night the children
and I would tell tales and enjoy each other. When you are around
a large crowd of kids and they all finally leave home, you miss
each and every one of them.
I will always have some sweet memory of each one. Because of the
accident that I had years ago, my head gradually drew down so
that when I walked my head faces the ground. Eve in this condition,
I feel extremely fortunate that I was able to enjoy my children
and now my grandchildren and my great grandchildren.
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