Mary Hicks Moore	Picture found in "Adam and Anne Mott"                                        by Thomas Cornell, 1890
Born: 29 July 1825 Flushing, New York
Married: 26 Oct 1844 Rochester, Monroe Co., NY		Rochester Monthly Meeting, Monroe County, New York, Quaker Records Elijah Pope Mary H Moore m 10-26-1844 (O) at her father's per min Elijah cert fr Windham MM (prob in Portage Co, OH ) 2-24-1843 (O)
Died: 06 Dec 1844 Rochester, Monroe Co., NY	Obituary Died, at Rochester, on the 6th of Twelfth month last, Mary M, wife of Elijah Pope, and daughter of Lindley M Moore in the 20th year of her age. She was early aware of the fatal tendency of her disease (Pulmonary consumption) and met its approaches with cheerful resignation to the Divine will. A humble reliance on the mediation of Christ, was her constant support during a protracted illness. (She often spoke of her approaching dissolution with calmness, saying “Death had no terrors;” and that “her hope was beyond the grave.” As the last conflict drew near, she remarked, “death would be a welcome messenger.” A short time before her gentle spirit took its flight, she said, “Mother, I believe my Savior will carry me safely through;” and a few minutes after, “Blessed Savior, take me to thyself.” She had often expressed a wish that her friends would not mourn for her, and just at the closing scene, when the power of speech had failed, she evinced the same desire, by wiping with her death cold hand, the tears from her mother’s cheeks, and gently shaking her head, as if to say “Weep not.” Died, on the morning of the 5th inst. in Rochester, N. Y. Mary M wife of Elijah Pope, aged 19 years. How early perish the flowers of a joyous hope. But last week we announced the marriage of our friend Dr Pope and just as our paper was issued, we received the sad intelligence of his young wife’s death. How sudden the transit from the altar to the grave. Her bridal robe was but her winding sheet. And the bright garlands of hope which we had woven for the home of our young friends, are destined thus early to perish in the tomb of the departed. If the bereaved and stricken one might find solace in the deep sympathy of his friends, it will arise from many a sorrowing heart.

FATHER

Lindley Murray Moore

MOTHER

Abigail Lydia Mott

HUSBAND

Elijah Pope b. 07 Sep 1818 d. 21 Jan 1856 Windham, Cumberland, ME Buried: Old Quaker Burial Ground, Windham Center, Cumberland, Maine

Elijah Pope was a student in Rochester in 1841 who, by 1844, had progressed to the rank of surgeon dentist, having matriculated at the Vermont Medical College in 1843. In January of 1842 he, along with two of his classmates, made history by extracting a tooth painlessly by using ether. William E Clarke administered the ether from a towel to a Miss Hobbey, probably a sister to Joseph C Hobbey while Elijah Pope painlessly extracted the tooth. In 1844 Elijah Pope is listed in the Rochester City Directory not only as a "Surgeon Dentist," but also as "Pope, E. & Co., Surgical Instrument Makers."  In the 1845-46 directory he is listed as "Pope. E. & J. C. Hobbey, Dentists."  He had married Mary H. Moore in October of 1844 but she died six weeks later of consumption.  By 1850 he was single and living in Windham, ME and is listed as a dentist.  He is buried in the Old Quaker Burial Ground in Windham. See American Surgical Instruments: The History of Their Manufacture ..  By James M. Edmonson, Ph.D. 1997

Old Quaker Burial Ground, Windham Center, Cumberland, Maine

Notes on Mary Hicks Moore
by Susan Brooke
Nov 2012

Mary Hicks Moore was born in Rochester in 1825.  The first time we hear of her is in 1834 when her brother, Murray, was writing to their brother, Edward Mott Moore.  He writes, "Mary and I go to Uncle S's to school, but we have not attended it daily on account of my health being so poor.  Mary has got a colt and Father thinks it will make a better horse than the other, and also he thinks it will be gray."  Later in that letter, their mother Abigail Mott Moore, took up the pen and added, "Richard claims Maggy's colt for his, and wants its name should be Janus, Mary wants it should be Eclipse."  Mary was 8 1/2  years old. (1)  In another letter of May of 1834 Abigail writes in great detail about taking Murray and Mary to see a circus which came to Rochester. (2) They seem to have been happy times.

However, Mary like her brother Murray did not have a very healthy childhood.  As early as June of 1837 when Mary was 12, Edward wrote, "I hope when I get home to find Mary much better, but I do not like the slow manner in which her recovery seems to progress.  I wish she could come to Philadelphia & let some of our eminent men see her. I think something could be made out.  Why could she not come down with Ann to New York.  The traveling & change of air might be very beneficial . (3)

In 1838 her mother, Abigail Mott Moore, writes, "Ann now talks of teaching six months from the time she commenced and then going to school herself, if Mary continues to improve as she has during the last 2 months, she will be able to accompany her, then grandmother wishes them to think about Westown, but it is quite out of the question for us to think of sending them to a boarding school at present and could we afford it." (4)  She continues later in the same letter, "Mary not quite so well for a week past, she will probably have her ups and downs."

Mary must have improved somewhat because in Jan of 1839 Abigail wrote, "Ann and Mary get up and make a fire in the school room, and we seldom see them until breakfast time.  Mary and Anna (and Murray when he is well enough) are also trying to study French, they recite their lessons in the evening either to Ann or James Cornell, a young man who is teaching writing in the High School boards with us."(5)

But she was into another relapse by Feb. of 1839 when Abigail wrote, "Mary has been falling off for some time, no doubt her close application has been too much for her.  Dr Reid has forbid her studying for the present." (6)  However Mary did get to go to Westown.  Abigail refers to Mary going off to school in her letter to her daughter Ann in June 1839.  Mary tacked on a note to her sister, "Dear Sister Anne,  Thee can see that mother has left me but very little room, but I think that she has more than she has subject to write about - I miss grandmother and thyself a great deal more now than I did at first and if thy friends (whoever they are) persuade thee to stay all winter I shall be mad angry with them.  I have got through with Boswell, Johnson and have got Lockhart's Scot, while I had the former I would play the old trick of leaving the beds unmade to read.  -  I assure thee sister that I am not proud to go to the High school but shall go as soon as it is possible for mother to spare me though I am not very useful yet I can do a great many little nick nacks these busy times.  -  I must bid thee good bye to go to church. I do not know who preached but it was a very good sermon, the text was 'one thing needful,' Ann Edgworth passed me when coming home and said she was going to see Mrs. E. and asked me to go with her, but I declined on account of its looking as though it was going to rain, she thought that I was not so good as thee, because thee would go through mud and rain.  I think I shall go before long."(7) 

In 1841 Lucretia Coffin Mott was writing to her sister about the Lindley Moore family. "Gilbert is doing nothing in the money-making line - not so in the line of family inheritance - his wife has a babe her 3rd, one is not 'a favor'! Abby (Mott Moore) is in poor health - cough & raises a good deal, the day before they left, some blood.  Edwd has a moderate share of practice - is making rather more than a living.  Lindley out of business at present, talks of a school.  Sarah wishes he would engage in one at once - they would like the superintendence of Havreford.  They talk of sending their Mary this way, to finish her education next winter - either to Westown or to a day school in this City - and would like to know what she could be boarded for in Philada.  I recommended a bord'g school as preferable, & said nothing about City prices.  If Mother (Ann) Mott remains in New York, Ann Moore is coming down to pass the winter, but Sarah hoped she would conclude to go home with her." (8)

 Westown was a Quaker school in Westchester, PA.  During vacations Mary sometimes went to visit her Aunt Sarah Cornell.  Mary was very close to her cousin, Anna Cornell who was just a year older.  In 1841 Anna Cornell  (who was visiting her Aunt Mary Hicks) added onto her mother's letter to James Cornell who was visiting in Rochester. "We are all wondering why -  we have not heard from the other house. (Lindley Moore's house). since Mother has been here.  We want to know whether Cousin Ann or Mary are either of them coming to stay with Grandmother this winter, because, if neither of them comes, Mother wants to fit me for the winter before she leaves, and she thinks that she must go home some time next week. - Tell Mary to write to me - that I am dying to see her; and I think decidedly that if Cousin Ann does not come she had better.  Maybe the change of air will do her good."(9)

It seems that the women all got together in NY at grandmother's house (Ann Mott) to makes clothes for the family every once in awhile.  Anna Cornell aged 18, again writing to her brother James, aged 22, writes in 1842, "Aunt E and the two Mollies (Mary Mott and Mary Moore, on vacation from Westown school), being here, seems to take all my time getting and making clothes. It is very pleasant having them all here. --  Mary Moore is staying here with grandmother and me.  She says 'give him my love,' so here it is.   -- Mollie (Mary) Moore is talking to me so much I can hardly write.  Grandmother says we ain't good for anything but to talk and laugh, and we do not a little of both."(9)  Mary was 17 at this time and in good enough health to go to school and sew and laugh.

So, Mary was 17 and healthy enough to go to boarding school.  Abigail wrote to her daughter there a couple of time in 1842.  In the May letter she told Mary how proud she was of her, but also encouraged her to become a better speller.  Abby wrote to her children with strong advice - but with humor.  And clearly she loved all her children.  However, in this letter she is not as forceful as she had been in some of her letters to Edward Mott Moore.  When Edward gave excuses about not finding time to write home, Abby would have none of it and tell him to find time.  However, with Mary, she is much less demanding.  She has to have been worried about her daughter's health and did not want Mary to overextend herself.  It is of note that Abby was coughing up blood at the same time.  When this letter was written, Mary only had a a couple of years to live, and Abigail only four.  (10)  In this letter written in May, Abigail mentions Elijah Pope and teases Mary writing, "Samuel said thou hast but a short time with each other, but improved that time well by talking as fast as possible – no doubt."

Mary married Elijah Pope on Oct 26, 1844 at the age of 19.  They must have stayed at her parents house on Elizabeth Street in Rochester because she died there of consumption six weeks after her marriage.  She was buried Dec 8, 1844 in plot D-18.  The cemetery record reads: Mary M Pope of Elizabeth Street, age 20, died of consumption.  (11)

Her mother, Abigail Mott Moore, wrote a lengthy tribute to her daughter after her death.  Abigail begins with, "A Mothers recollections of her beloved daughter.    In the early part of her illness, while hope yet lingered around her friends, she said to me, 'Mother, I know thy anxiety for me and I know too that brother Edward is hardly willing to acknowledge what he fears to be the state of my lungs, but he need not hesitate, for I have long supposed that they were diseased, and I look forward to the result with resignation.' "  Mary had a strong belief in God, was always thinking of others, and did not want her friends to grieve for her after her death. (12)